Dating, Fuck Buds and Breaking Up

Life is pretty good for me right now. In the dating sense that is. A big change in my life is that i dropped 2 jean sizes and am wearing a 34 waist for the first time since middle school. I have always been a big boy and dropping pants sizes has been fantastic.

I've had a pretty active dating life since I stopped seeing Chris.

The first guy I dated was this guy Lenny. He was young, immature but incredibly fucking hot. He was also a complete dick to me on the nights we hung out. He did not live in the city which was fine with me. When he did come into the city we hung out. What's awful is that I knew that this "relationship" would not last and end up fading away because it was based all on sex.

Lenny was incredible in bed.Once night after sex we were laying in bed talking and he said he needed to tell me something and that I could not judge him after hearing what he had to say... Turns out that Lenny had acted in a few Sean Cody/Corbin Fisher movies. I wasn't upset... I was actually impressed with myself that i was able to land a former porn actor and that I was able to satisfy him in bed.

But he's 25 years old and incredibly immature. It ended mostly because he's a dick and I refused to let a guy like that make me feel like shit. Something that did make me feel good out of the whole situation is the fact that he sent me a text shortly after I told him how pissed off I was at him saying, "I wish you weren't mad at me."

There was always Nate. Nate is the Broadway actor with whom I have messed around with occasionally. He's a tall guy and our friendship is based solely on sex and getting off together. We are both attracted to one an other but for the most part... it's just sex.

I love New York for the simple fact that there are always guys around to have sex with other guys out there to meet. If I had been living in Nebraska... I am sure I would have settled on someone else by now. But there is always someone better out there waiting to date.

I had a "bros-before-hoes" moment last week that is just too good to pass up telling. It has led to two great dates with a new guy I have been seeing. Hoping it all works out.

Single

Another Valentine's Day has come and gone and I'm single.

"Wait, what happened to Chris???"

I truly put a lot of effort into trying to make a relationship work with Chris. There are two reasons I'm not dating Chris anymore.

1) He's a smoker. That is a deal breaker for me. I honestly tried to look past the smoking but when you're a non-smoker and you date a guy who smokes... it can be a real turn off. No matter how much gum he chewed and how much mouthwash he used... I still smelt and tasted it.

2) On our 4th official "date" we grabbed dinner at a place near my apartment. Conversation is easy with Chris. He took a smoke break before we ate dinner. When he came in from his smoke break we talked about his upcoming trip to Atlantic City with his best friend Whitney. I had met Whitney the night john and I met. They are best friends. She is his fag hag and he does not stop talking about her. I forget what kind of job she has but her off days are Tuesdays and Wednesdays. So Chris changed his off days at work to match his best friends so he could hang out with her. He also has no intention of changing his off days because as he told me, "Whitney would kill me"

The next part of the conversation kinda scared me... He brought up how cute I looked in a YouTube video dancing. There is a video of me dancing on a TV show I was on a few years ago. Whitney found it... while she was running a background check on me....

Now... I am all about Googling and even glancing at Facebook to check a guy out after I've met him. Most of the time it's for my nosy friends who always want to see a picture of the guy I've met. His best friend ran an entire background check on me... he even asked me why I lived in Florida for a few months (I did an internship)

Maybe he somehow found this blog too...

I tried. I really tried. The smoking, background check and his undying love for his best girlfriend did me in. He's a nice guy. Sometimes it just doesn't work out. That's fine. Just wish i did not have to spend Valentines day alone... again.